AGGREGATE
EXPERIENCES
Adam Blatner
January 16, 2007
Although there are
words for meaning, self, society,
family, happiness, and other experiences, we should recognize
that these are states of mind are not a single phenomena, but rather
they are the product of many— possibly hundreds—of component
experiences of a variety of types. There is no “thing-ness” to such
phenomena, but rather they should be noted to be, first, experiences,
products of the mind. Second, these phenomena are not just one formula,
theory, or anything that can be simply defined. Although people write
about them as if they can be so encompassed, each of these are really
something far more complex and subtle.
As an example,
the concept of self has been
described in many ways. On another paper
on
this website, I analyze this concept and note that self is an
illusion that emerges out of scores of various operations at the level
of body, mind, and socio-cultural and physical environment. It is an
aggregate experience. Similarly, I hint at this idea in other papers on
this website about meaning in life. However, the term, “aggregate
experience,” has occurred to me more recently, and, I think, adds
something to our understanding of such phenomena..
Number
and Density of Connections
People
are continuously interacting with their environment in thousands of
subliminal ways. We stretch and move to make our musculo-skeletal
system feel comfortable, we occasionally take a deeper breath, we greet
others and feel more or less known by how others greet us. The
psychiatrist Eric Berne, who originated a school of psychology and
therapy called “Transactional Analysis” (rather popular in the 1970s),
coined the term “strokes” for these social exchanges. Berne suggested
that people need a certain number of strokes or their figurative spines
would shrivel! I agree with his intuition, and want to elaborate on it.
First, we should
recognize that the sense of connection and participation can be
temporarily satisfied by pseudo-connections, substitutes. Television
and other media can give people a sense that they are alive and
involved when in fact they are only barely functioning, lost in a world
of spectatorship and supported perhaps by the associated reinforcement
of junk food.
Working from
this, there are many cultural pastimes that similarly generate strokes.
Let’s imagine that most folks need perhaps a thousand strokes a day, of
some kind. For some, food is a stroke, for others, alcohol or drugs
open the mind to the feelings of exchanging strokes, of heightened
sensitivity and sociability, even if that’s not what is actually
happening. All the compulsions and addictions, major and minor, serve
this function!
Depth
and Relevance of Elements
It’s not
just a matter of numbers, though I think that too thin or too thick a
density also creates problems, but the elements involved also carry
different weights. I suspect that people who fill their lives with what
they sense to be superficialities suffer from a deeper connectedness to
a sense of meaning, or at least vividness of meaning. This undoubtedly
varies, but often it helps to have some investment and actual
interactions with themes, books, people, and activities that are felt
to be more relevant, emotionally or philosophically or spiritually
meaningful. For many, this is one of the functions of religion.
The variable of
strokes interpersonally are also weighted towards those who are given
more relevance because of status, emotional connection, need, being
needed, and other variables of bonding and attraction. A word of praise
from a parent who isn’t overly generous with such phrase carries more
weight emotionally than praise from an acquaintance given to be
undiscriminatingly generous with approval.
Meaning
and Coherence
A related
and overlapping dimension has to do with the sense of meaning. Again,
the number sense to be considered here is in the hundreds or thousands,
the number of mental images, cognitive constructs, stories, beliefs,
known facts that the mind must connect with in order to generate a
sufficient sense of coherence. If these images resist organization into
a meaningful whole, if they are too disparate, then a deeply disturbing
feeling results. This may operate unconsciously, because there are few
words in our culture, and there is a degree of shame associated with
this condition. For a while, the existential philosophers and writers
called it the “absurd,” and the feeling was also associated with
“angst” and “alienation.”
I think this
feeling drives people to seek meaning, and to spend a fair amount of
time reviewing those ideas and associations that, when woven together,
confer a sense of meaningful story. For some, this may involve Bible
study, and for others, reading about history or science. The point to
be made is that it is the volume of interactions, not the content or
cleverness of a single formula, that operates here.
For some,
paradoxically, focusing on a more limited number of themes, as in a
“mantra” or repeated prayer, serves as a simplifying agent that gathers
together all of the previous social, emotional, and cognitive
experiences. The narrative or story behind the meaning operates as a
subtle background or foundation for what may seem to be a starkly
austere practice. In fact, though, depth is being sought instead of
breadth, the input and exchange may be subtle, but in terms of the
economy of “strokes,” there is still an intensity of experience that
must be achieved in order to maintain optimal psychological
satisfaction.
The
Experience of the Divine
I think
we should recognize that our notions of God are also constructed as an
aggregate experience. For most people, this notion is only slightly
affected by the writings of theologians. A few more intellectual folks
require a more tightly reasoned and argued conceptualization, but even
then, many other components are in play that they may not consciously
admit. For example, facing inner contradictions in their own religion,
they work out ways of resolving them rather than face the obvious
alternatives: (1) check out another religion—but those, too, tend to be
laden with cultural elements that seem even more disconcertingly
foreign; (2) forget religion, but this is to enter a world without the
many supportive functions of one’s own roots; (3) construct one’s own
religion, but it is questionable whether most people are able to
marshal the components that would support this. In fact, of course, the
problems of religion not infrequently drive people to explore the first
two alternatives, but the point here is that we should take into
account not only the intellectual objections, but equally if not more
importantly, the shifts in social connections, the feeling of the
relationships involved in belonging to a meaning-making community.
In calling
attention to the aggregate nature of many experiences, including
religion, or how we think about God, I am not presuming to make any
statements about the “out-there” Deity. Our culture, and to some degree
our basic makeup, tends to objectify, to project our inner experience
outward onto the world. We tend to think of such categories as “out
there,” and an argument could be made for there being “something”
beyond the individual mind’s construction. However, we should more
clearly recognize that a great deal of what is thought to be out there
is elaborated and developed, interpreted and subjected to other
feelings and images within the mind of the individual. Nor should the
influence of the family, tribe, rituals, and cultural beliefs and
narratives be underestimated. Thus, while I am not interested in
engaging in a theological discussion about the nature of the
Transcendent Realm associated with the word, “God,” I think it’s
important to consider the psycho-cultural nature of this phenomenon.
This paper, then, resonates with the following anecdote: Once, when
Carl Jung was asked, “You’ve studied comparative religion for many
years. What can you tell us about God?” he replied, “I don’t know
anything about God. I only know what people think about God.”
These categories
in fact are not discreet but overlap with each other. The pioneering
sociologist Emile Durkheim noted that for many people society
functioned as a god. I agree, with the modification that this may not
be all there is to it, but the point to be noted is that for many
people, the social input, the power of belonging, of sharing, of
feeling together, this is significant.
Our culture has
become in many ways too individualistic, making the “loner” somewhat of
a hero, and the man who refuses to be “tied down” somewhat glamorous.
There are these archetypal tendencies towards freedom, triumphing over
the opposite tendencies to sacrifice one’s individuality in order to
belong. Sometimes, the culture over-values one over the other. The
point here is that we have collectively come to think of people as more
separate than they are, to deny the degree to which human nature is
familial and tribal.
(Part of this is
due to the industrial revolution and the tendency to treat people as
replaceable parts in a machine. The cost of leaving family and
village-tribe is denied by both the factory owner and the worker
himself, but the loss of social connectedness takes its toll.)
Other
Collectives
I see
spirituality and religion as being associated in the mind with the
phenomenon of the collective, the way an individual is related to
family, tribe, vocation, age, and other demographic, interest, or
aesthetic category. (By aesthetics, I refer to anything that evokes
pleasure or displeasure, and that goes beyond the more familiar
categories of art, nature, and music. It includes sports, play, humor,
curiosity, interest, intellectual challenge, dialogue, cuddling, hot
tubs, rock climbing, and so forth.) To be for a cause, caught up in the
need to keep one’s ethnic roots alive, sentimentally holding on to a
house or a trinket, all these participate in the aggregate experiences
of self, meaning, and belonging. For more on collectives,
see the other webpage
that addresses this subject.
Summary
The point
to emphasize here is that we should recognize that a single
formulation, insight, or even interpersonal influence is rarely
sufficient to move people deeply. Generally, there needs to be a host
of reinforcing experiences, often involving a range of modalities. For
this reason, people feel grounded in, say, their religion, ethnicity,
family, and so forth according to connections that are infused with
taste, smell, the sense of place, history, stories, social networks and
their meanings (e.g., who is a good example of what quality, and who is
a bad example), feeling useful, needed, appreciated, really seen,
heard, and understood, known, recognized for one’s efforts, the
relevance of the cause or purpose of the collective, and so forth.
One of my continuing discoveries is in the direction of what so many
other sciences seem to be doing, explosing the depth and extent of the
complexity of our world. I hope that this concept of aggregate
experience helps to clarify our understanding of the many dimensions of
our life and how they interpenetrate and interact with each other.
I am open to your feedback, suggestions about what other kinds of
aggregate experiences I may have overlooked, and comments . A
nice thing about a webpage is that I can revise it. Email me at adam@blatner.com
Return to Top